I'm not sure who to accurately attribute it to, but I often think of this quote: Sica
To avoid criticism: say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.
Between my social media, blog, and newsletter, I have almost 40,000 people accessing my content per month. I'm really fortunate because the majority of these people are super nice (or, maybe just super quiet), but even if only 1% of them aren't, that means I could have about 400 people per month just outraged at something I've said or posted or done (or, however they interpret what I've said, posted, or done).
No matter what I do it's absolutely unforgivable, at least in someone's mind - and boy do they totally want to make sure I know it.
This was very hard for me for a long time. I really try to make thoughtful decisions, to live with integrity, to, like, you know, be a reasonably good person. And to have every single word, choice, and aspect of my life regularly criticized, judged, and met with so much vitriol was absolutely exhausting until I realized that I could either let it drain me or I could let it free me.
Once you realize that when it comes to the opinions of other people everything you do is basically wrong, you may as well let go of trying to be "good" or even "good enough" and simply do what's right, and practical, and possible.
I think a lot of people are feeling this same way, since this week I had my most popular Instagram post ever with a lot of feedback about how much others could relate (but, don't worry, it still totally upset plenty of others ;) ).
So, in case you no one has told you this lately: thank you for trying in all the ways you do. It does make a difference.